Words Are Windows (or They’re Walls)

by | Nov 2, 2017 | New this month

Usually I write about mindfulness and how it applies to PAIN CARE.

Mindfulness is, in fact, one of the cornerstones of PAIN CARE YOGA.
But mindfulness isn’t exclusive to a yoga mat, meditation cushion, or pain management.

I discovered that magic happens when I apply mindfulness to other aspects of my life, including  to how I relate to and communicate with others.

Thanksgiving weekend is almost here (this is why today’s post is short + sweet – who’s got the time to read a long love letter when the turkey is waiting?).
Many of us will be spending time with our extended family or friends, and, as we all know, large family gatherings can quickly turn volatile.

Communicating mindfully, with patience and sensitivity, can help us not only to prevent or discharge potentially upsetting situations, but enrich our connections with others in ways we never imagined possible.

This practice is very new to me; yet, I have been astonished by the gifts it continues to deliver. Still, it is way too new to be able to verbalize my experience.

Luckily, Ruth does it brilliantly:

Words are Windows (Or They’re Walls), a poem by Ruth Bebermeyer

I feel so sentenced by your words, I feel so judged and sent away Before I go I got to know Is that what you mean to say?

Before I rise to my defense, Before I speak in hurt or fear, Before I build that wall of words, Tell me, did I really hear?

Words are windows, or they’re walls, They sentence us, or set us free.
When I speak and when I hear, Let the love light shine through me.

There are things I need to say, Things that mean so much to me, If my words don’t make me clear,
Will you help me to be free?

If I seemed to put you down, If you felt I didn’t care, Try to listen through my words To the feelings that we share.

~ Ruth Bebermeyer
(from the book Nonviolent Communication – A Language of Life)

Happy Thanksgiving!

Hey, my name is Julia

Living with chronic pain has taught me to look for solutions in unlikely places –  places where most people see only problems.

Over the years I’ve gotten to be pretty good at this problem-solving and silver-lining finding thing.

So good that I felt compelled to share what I’ve learned and help others to find their sea legs while navigating, living, and winning their battle with chronic pain.